Tension Management

Whenever I meet any person I find that everybody is living under TENSION for some reason or other. For child not getting proper attention from parents, for students not getting time to do homework or play, for adults not getting job for their satisfaction, businessman not getting enough business or elders not getting enough respect from society. In other words, everyone feels that he is not able to perform as per his capability without knowing himself that whether he deserves for the job. It is the mindset created in modern world where wants keep on increasing than available resources. It also appears to me that we are trained to worry from birth. When parents express constant worry, children grow up thinking that life goes on only if you worry. We should know that life goes on not because of us but in spite of us. Elders expect their juniors to worry! If you do not worry, they brand you as uncaring. It is possible to take care without worrying. Care is doing while worry is chattering. In the process, you feel isolated and come under TENSION where managing the same is very difficult.

It is not true that the work causes TENSION but TENSION comes from ungoverned mind i.e. impulses, feeling, liking, and disliking etc. which should be controlled to have positive action. Most human beings work for selfish gain for himself to fulfill his ego centric designs. Once you work for greater goal in order of priority you become free from TENSION and start working with perfect sense of detachment. You do not crave for desire or fruit of action but raveling in self within i.e. you enjoy absolute freedom from TENSION.

The TENSION originates from mind which ultimately brings out anger within your body and burst out on other people. Anger is either Explosive or Implosive. Explosive people should learn to respond rather than react while Implosive people should learn to manage reaction before it explodes. In other word Control your anger before it Controls you and learn to approach the problems in a straight forward manner or best going for solitude for some time as underneath every anger lies fear. Anger stimulates the release of the hormones Adrenaline and Cortisol into the bloodstream which mobilizes the body in the short term but can be destructive if chronic. You always think that I am right for getting angry because other people are not thinking the way I think, forgetting that no two individuals are equal, the concept of equality exists on paper and all civilization grow on exploitation, only exploiters and victims keep changing with time and place. One should accept the fact that the way I think will differ then the way others think. It is the perception which changes according to his thinking when you try to mould others in your way of thinking. You have to understand that things do not change unless we change. Ring out the old and ring in the new change where it is needed; even complete overhauling, where worn-out and unhealthy practices, habits and systems should be replaced by gainful and life supporting methods. Before change, one must recognize the change but do not change for the sake of change. In other words, control yourselves to control others, though it is difficult to control own self.

The best way to remove the TENSION is to know yourself, to limit your limitation by understanding yourself that I am different and unique. Remove I ness (Ego) from your vocabulary and accept the others as they are. If you do not like somebody, forget it. If somebody does not believe in you, forget it. Go on doing the work as you deem fit to achieve long term goal decided by you.

Start your day every morning thinking with cool collected mind drawing inspiration from almighty that give me strength to achieve my long term goal. You will find that the minor hiccups/hurdles come in your way will not disturb you with the result, you will not loose your cool in any condition even someone tries intentionally to hurt your ego. The day you start living for others, you will feel life worth living. You will find within a month that things are improving within you and in others also.

C S Modi